Session 8 - Boundary Successes, Part 1
- Learn more about successfully establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries.
- Look at six measurements you cna take to determine your growth and development toward mature boundaries.
Session 7 - Boundary Conflicts, Part 2
- Use principles you've already learned to establish boundaries with family, friends, spouse, children, and coworkers.
- Discover that these five boundary conflicts are, at heart, issues of self-control rather than "other control".
- Solve boundary conflicts by taking specific steps: 1) Identify the symptom, 2) Identify the origins or root causes of the symptom (unmet needs, unrecognized fears, unresolved fears, etc.), 3) Identify the boundary conflict, 4) Identify who needs to take responsibility in the situation and the need that drives the conflict, 5) Take in the good, 6) Practice setting limits with safe people, 7) Say no to the bad, 8) Forgive.
Session 6 - Boundary Conflicts, Part 1
- Look at some potential boundary conflicts within yourself and between you and God
- Determine what healthy action you can take to avoid or deal with these potential boundary conflicts
- 7 common areas of internal boundary conflicts: 1) Eating, 2) Money, 3) Time Management, 4) Task Completion, 5) The Tongue, 6) Sexuality, 7)Alcohol/Substance Abuse
- 3 reasons why our no's don't work in these 7 areas:
- We are responsible for - not just to - the person with the problem when we are that person.
- Due to shame, fear, or our own self-sufficiency, we tend to withdraw from relationships and accountability.
- We try to use willpower to solve our boundary problems.
- 7 steps toward resolving boundary conflicts: 1) Identify the symptoms, 2) Identify the root causes of the symptoms, 3) Identify the boundary conflict, 4) Identify who needs to take responsibility, 5) Identify what you need as you proceed along this path, 6) Just do it, 7) What accountability and consequences do you need to build into your program?
Session 5 - Myths About Boundaries
- Myth #1 - If I set boundaries, I'm being selfish.
- Myth #2 - Boundaries are a sign of disobedience.
- Myth #3 - If I begin setting boundaries, I will be hurt by others.
- Myth #4 - If I set boundaries, I will hurt others.
- Myth #5 - Boundaries mean I am angry.
- Myth #6 - When others set boundaries, it injures me.
- Myth #7 - Boundaries cause feelings of guilt.
- Myth #8 - Boundaries are permanent, and I'm afraid of burning my bridges.